Inspired by the beautiful culture of Oman

If officially all men were to wear traditional white shalwar kameez and all women were to wear black Burqa in Pakistan, how would you feel about it?
 
I saw people in Oman doing the same, feeling proud of their culture, wearing the same during office hours, the same during important events such as Eid, Marriage, etc.
 
If you think we’d go back to stone ages, probably you can say the same about Mark Zuckerberg wearing the same shirt every day!
 
This post will make each of you react differently, but imagine a world where you didn’t judge anyone based on their clothes (or brands), nor have to worry about what you wore every day.
 
We are all indirectly affected by the materialistic world.
We seek beauty outside, but it is only found within us.
If you think the brands you wear define you, it’s high time to fix the insecure you. Your house, your car, your entire lifestyle can all be gone in a snap, would that ever change the person you were? It’s the heart that really matters in the end. All else is just a mirage we keep running after, greed that is never enough.

Suckers will keep sucking, doers will do. Who are you?

There are people who suck and their entire purpose in life is to keep sucking!
 
You show them light, they’ll say it’s too bright.
You give them hope, they’ll ask you to stop dreaming
 
No matter what you do or tell, their words will suck out the energy in you. They’ll constantly complain about everything and anything; humans, nations, weather, food, system, army, religion, they just need a story, to begin with!
They love problems and never care to find a solution.
 
You can’t win from them. They are not here to listen. They are here to suck! When you find these suckers, stay away from them, they’ll suck all your energy, all your time, and worst – they’ll suck the life out of you!
 
You’ll have such a person in your life, at your university, in your family, in your friend circle and 500% on your social media!
 
By now you should know what to do next? Need help?
 
If you spot a person, stalk their previous back to back 5 tweets or facebook posts. If they spread hate, complain, it’s their goodbye time. Do it. You’ll live longer.
 
PS: This is sucking post for all the suckers out there to stay away from young generation who want to fix things. Let them breathe. Stay away.
 
PSS: This post does not intend to make you think that you are always right. Those who criticize you to make you a better person are gold! Find them, respect them and cherish them. But still, if you don’t see the big picture in this post? I smell a new sucker.
 
Peace!

Can we have the same heart when we were 11 years old?

Why can’t we have the same heart when we were 11 years old?

I often play a game called PUBG Mobile where you land with 100 players and the last one surviving wins. Players have to find weapons and eliminate each other.
 
While playing a solo game, I saw a guy in front of me. We had guns pointed to each other and I just said before shooting, “Hey! Wanna team up?!”, and this 11-year old kid replied, “Sure, but can you put your gun behind your back and walk out so I can trust you won’t shoot me?” And this I did. It was fun teaming up with a stranger for the first time. He was also a very smart kid as in the game you can speak with strangers in a limited radius, so when he went out of range, he used to fire in the air just to get my attention. Luckily, we both were the last two surviving players left in a map of 100 players!
 
I asked the kid to shoot me up so he’d win but he laughed and said that he wins a lot so I should shoot him up. To which I replied that I don’t play solo a lot, I play in a squad so this win won’t matter. He didn’t agree to it. Then I shared an idea to pull the trigger of a frag grenade together which blasts in few seconds if not thrown away. The idea was to blast ourselves out together, which he agreed to do. He pulled the trigger a second earlier and that got me out and he won. He was super sad when he realized that!
 
Now if there is anything to learn from the above story, it is the generosity of an 11- year old kid who wanted to make me happy. It’s hard to win a game with 100 players to kill and be the last one winning getting the title of “Chicken Dinner”. But the kid was okay to share that victory title with me. A kid from the U.S had never known me but had a heart that cared.
 
In our lives, we have forgotten the 11-year old us. Somewhere down the line, we all had been a super generous kid, trying to help others and sacrifice our happiness for others. We used to be sad when we saw someone else sad, cried when someone was rude. Where are those emotions lost now? Forget helping strangers, we have stopped caring for the ones we know unless there is something for us in return.
 
Can we have the same heart again that helps and most importantly sacrifices for others with no return intended? If helping strangers is too much, can we begin with thanking those we know; parents, teachers, mentors, advisors, siblings, friends, employees? Let’s at least try to brighten someone’s day if we can’t brighten our own and leave it on Karma! That helps. I’m telling you. It does.

Peace!

Your parents are a blessing you have, for a very limited time in your life!

Your parents are a blessing you have, for a very limited time in your life!

They deserve your time more than your girlfriend or your business or your job or your startup or whatever that keeps you busy ignoring them!

If you cannot withstand their taunts, their silly jokes, their constant complains, their reckless anger, their everyday requests, their forced order, there is something wrong with you, not them!

If you fail to see the love in those annoying phone calls asking you to come back home early, if you fail to see them aging, if you fail to see how you ignore their existence, if you feel embarrassed with them when in the outside world, if your routine has more priority than their requests?
You need to remember your past when they were not as embarrassed as you are now when they had to change your diapers, a time when you could hardly walk and were nothing without their support.

What changed you now?
Is it the race you run proving something to the world?
Is it winning over your girlfriend or boyfriend?
Is it the company of your friends who equally treat their parents as you do?
Is it the addiction of having more fame, more money or more power?
Will having all make you a better person, someone the world can trust? Clearly, if you can’t take care of those you brought you to this world, you can’t be trusted at all.

It’s never too late for many. You might still have a chance.
A day will come when you’ll be ready to give up all for that one smile but that won’t be enough. You’ll look around and feel empty, heartbroken and in regret but that’s not all, you’ll become a parent too, wishing, praying, hoping for a child better than you.

Don’t try to win this life at the price of your Hereafter.
May our last moments be not full of regrets.
May our lives be of a good example when we meet Him!
Amen!

Peace!

Let your pain challenge you to be better!

Pain sometimes is inevitable.
But if you embrace it, and channel its energy into positivity, you’ll rise much stronger and wiser than before.
Challenge yourself.

Shy to speak in public? Teach!
Lazy? Go to the gym!
Night owl? Beat the sun every morning!

Do things that you believe you can never do but are good for you! Do for yourself, not to prove anything to the world.

Forget being praised or shamed by society or your social media followers at all. Let your armor go.

Give your best shot at anything you do, because even if you fail, you’ll be content that you tried your best.
And please, please, please, enjoy the journey, live in the present, and be stronger than before – every day!

Peace!

Trend of Motivational Speakers

Every second you find a new ‘Motivational Speaker’. You check their past and it’s full of quotes and poems which again are from someone else.

To those who ‘pay’ to attend such sessions, find the courage to ask and listen the stories of your father or mother. Find motivation in them and the ones close to you.

Worst, learn to search such videos on Youtube. You’ll find plenty, with better and newer quotes and poems!

PS: People who work keeping their heads down for a long time, are the ones who inspire and motivate with their experiences. Everything else is a movie – mostly entertaining but not productive.

Peace!

Another version of our lives – beyond Social Media!

We are not just the images we create of ourselves on social media, but have a second version of our lives running in parallel, the version of struggles, despair, hardships and challenges. The pathway to startup is never easy, even life has its own challenges which are different to each of us. But we tend to share positive stories on social media. This is having a damaging effect on many upcoming stars and even to our closest friends. The feeling of missing out is making them desperate to achieve something bigger, pushing them to find a way to change the world. They need to relax and consider the second picture too. The life that they now enjoy could be something that many of us dream every single day. Focus and harness your energy in all positive manner you can, live up a good life. You’ll have your unique story in time. Whatever you seek, is also seeking you. No one can take what is destined to be yours. Be sincere, self-disciplined and generous.

Difference of opinions were once productive, not anymore!

There was a time when debates were considered productive, a difference of opinion gave birth to new ideas not create hatred. A time when people appreciated disagreement keeping aside their ego and pride. People were continuous learners and good listeners. They weren’t full of themselves or afraid of failures. They were patient.

These days, when you disagree on any topic, you’ll be shunned, hated and remembered for the rest of your life as someone who didn’t ‘like’ that person. Now, it’s just a game of ‘likes’, no matter how fake they are, people just want to consume ‘likes’.

If people don’t criticize or correct you. You should be worried

Peace!

 

FOMO – Feeling of Missing Out, can be your worst feeling on social media.

Just because everyone; laughs on divorces, rebels religious events, judges morality, becomes god, hates everything, wants to be supreme – doesn’t mean you to be “shallow” too.

You can be different. And to be different, you don’t have to say something stupid to get noticed on social media.

You don’t have to be a part of something running “hot” in news just because everyone does.

You don’t have to ridicule something or someone to look cool or educated in your circle.

You don’t have to go watch a movie in a cinema since most of your friends watched.

You don’t have to feel depressed if you see others having fun.

AND if you feel same way “alot”, have a break for few days from social media. Talk to people personally. Everything you see on social media about someone doesn’t entirely represent their lives. Pains, struggles, hardships, embarrassments & failures are rarely seen.

Remember.
Understanding this feeling is important so we may find ways to tackle it and live happier lives. And yes, next time you see someone unlocking an achievement or having fun, say MashAllah and say a small prayer for them…
“May they have more InshAllah”

Peace!

Living or Documenting?

Where do I start this from? We have embraced technology too much, to an extent where the limits of humanity have all been crossed. Emotions, feelings and living in the moment have been compromised with the efforts to document it all. A beautiful sunshine, a child’s smile, all such moments are set to fire by our desire to capture these moments in the form of pictures, tweets and posts, for the audience of the other delusional social world. A world which comes before our feelings, where “likes”, “tweets”, “followers” and “comments” matter the most.

Those known to be perfectly connected and socially active, are found guilty of not interacting with people they are with. Families, real friends, and not to forget –neighbors. Worst, most even don’t recall who their neighbors are.

The desire of getting equipped with latest smartphones, devices, and techy gadgets is the new drug. Once you have it all, which you’ll never, will make you realize the time these monsters have consumed, trapping you in their own world. Your conscience experiences it, you’ll realize it someday too. To be always connected, a mental disorder I can say.

I’m not broken or sad. I’m worried and terrified for the next generation. A generation that seeks pleasure and yearns to gain sympathies from a different social world. A world where each and every word matters to them, turning them short tempered, immoral, and with no respect. They learn and fetch information only what interests them, and personal interests can’t be always right. They are turning self-centered and selfish with time, capturing and filtering hundreds of their own pictures. The modern world calls it “selfie” pictures. I’d love to rename it to “selfish” pictures. You’ll realize that one day. Days are not too far, when people would only capture themselves. It has already begun.

A fathers complain, a mother’s happiness; the realization of these feelings have no time in our life anymore. A life that is solely dedicated in knowing others in a different social world, that in the end we have forgotten ours. I’m guilty of standing amongst those and I truly realize that. I hope someday we all do and that is when our families and those close, find a new soul in us. A soul that listens to them when they speak, and not just nods when they speak their heart. A soul so beautiful that invests their time with others, in return of having true happiness as they make progress. That is, what it is, to be human beings.

 

-Sameer Ahmed Khan

7th September, 2014