We are not just the images we create of ourselves on social media, but have a second version of our lives running in parallel, the version of struggles, despair, hardships and challenges. The pathway to startup is never easy, even life has its own challenges which are different to each of us. But we tend to share positive stories on social media. This is having a damaging effect on many upcoming stars and even to our closest friends. The feeling of missing out is making them desperate to achieve something bigger, pushing them to find a way to change the world. They need to relax and consider the second picture too. The life that they now enjoy could be something that many of us dream every single day. Focus and harness your energy in all positive manner you can, live up a good life. You’ll have your unique story in time. Whatever you seek, is also seeking you. No one can take what is destined to be yours. Be sincere, self-disciplined and generous.
Just because everyone; laughs on divorces, rebels religious events, judges morality, becomes god, hates everything, wants to be supreme – doesn’t mean you to be “shallow” too.
You can be different. And to be different, you don’t have to say something stupid to get noticed on social media.
You don’t have to be a part of something running “hot” in news just because everyone does.
You don’t have to ridicule something or someone to look cool or educated in your circle.
You don’t have to go watch a movie in a cinema since most of your friends watched.
You don’t have to feel depressed if you see others having fun.
AND if you feel same way “alot”, have a break for few days from social media. Talk to people personally. Everything you see on social media about someone doesn’t entirely represent their lives. Pains, struggles, hardships, embarrassments & failures are rarely seen.
Understanding this feeling is important so we may find ways to tackle it and live happier lives. And yes, next time you see someone unlocking an achievement or having fun, say MashAllah and say a small prayer for them…
“May they have more InshAllah”
Where do I start this from? We have embraced technology too much, to an extent where the limits of humanity have all been crossed. Emotions, feelings and living in the moment have been compromised with the efforts to document it all. A beautiful sunshine, a child’s smile, all such moments are set to fire by our desire to capture these moments in the form of pictures, tweets and posts, for the audience of the other delusional social world. A world which comes before our feelings, where “likes”, “tweets”, “followers” and “comments” matter the most.
Those known to be perfectly connected and socially active, are found guilty of not interacting with people they are with. Families, real friends, and not to forget –neighbors. Worst, most even don’t recall who their neighbors are.
The desire of getting equipped with latest smartphones, devices, and techy gadgets is the new drug. Once you have it all, which you’ll never, will make you realize the time these monsters have consumed, trapping you in their own world. Your conscience experiences it, you’ll realize it someday too. To be always connected, a mental disorder I can say.
I’m not broken or sad. I’m worried and terrified for the next generation. A generation that seeks pleasure and yearns to gain sympathies from a different social world. A world where each and every word matters to them, turning them short tempered, immoral, and with no respect. They learn and fetch information only what interests them, and personal interests can’t be always right. They are turning self-centered and selfish with time, capturing and filtering hundreds of their own pictures. The modern world calls it “selfie” pictures. I’d love to rename it to “selfish” pictures. You’ll realize that one day. Days are not too far, when people would only capture themselves. It has already begun.
A fathers complain, a mother’s happiness; the realization of these feelings have no time in our life anymore. A life that is solely dedicated in knowing others in a different social world, that in the end we have forgotten ours. I’m guilty of standing amongst those and I truly realize that. I hope someday we all do and that is when our families and those close, find a new soul in us. A soul that listens to them when they speak, and not just nods when they speak their heart. A soul so beautiful that invests their time with others, in return of having true happiness as they make progress. That is, what it is, to be human beings.
-Sameer Ahmed Khan
7th September, 2014